If you are like most of us, you have ancestors who went to their grave with family stories which were never recorded. Perhaps it never seemed like the right time, or perhaps you just never thought about it - but whatever the reason you put off asking the questions until it was too late. Don't make that mistake with Mom!  While we all wish that our mothers could live forever, we can at least ensure that their memories do.

When interviewing Mom (or other family members) the most important thing to remember is that this will be an ongoing project, not a one-time adventure. Thinking 'small' will help keep your interview focused and more enjoyable for both you and your Mom. A good way to achieve this is to select a topic or theme du jour. This will help to keep your interview on target and will keep your Mom relaxed as well, as she will have a good idea of what to expect in advance. It will also help to prevent an overly lengthy interview, as this is no fun for anyone.

Sample themes for your family history interview:

• Genealogical - the old standby; what does your Mom know about her ancestors? Begin with names and dates, but then flesh out the story with her feelings, perceptions, and motivations - why, how, and what. These are the things that will go to the grave with your mother when she dies unless you record them now.
   
• Topical - focus on a particular event, location, time period, or family occasion such as World War II, the family farm, the 1960s, or a family wedding.
   
• Social history - talk to your Mom about everyday life - the daily routine, the family's religious practices, gender roles of the time period, etc.
   
• Family folklore - record a favorite family story or legend, song, childhood game...
   
• Technology, skills and occupations - talk about how things were done in the past. From cooking and diapers to computers and cars - these are things which tend to change from generation to generation.

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